Girl Fight in The Church…Say What???

Hot topic this month – jealousy! And where do we find it? Right after Eve, jealousy returns and enters the life of the next woman mentioned by name in the Bible. Yes, Sarah! Sarah the wife of Abraham, a man known as the father of many nations, a friend of God, and the father of all who believe! Even in the heart of Sarah, who plays an important role in the history of salvation, we unravel the emotion of jealousy.

We meet this woman in Genesis 11, who was first named Sarai, which in Hebrew means my lady or my princess. Then God renamed her Sarah, which has a similar Hebrew name meaning lady, princess, or noblewoman. She was so beautiful that when traveling from country to country to the place God was taking them, Abraham became so worried about the response of other powerful men to her beauty that he lied about his relationship with her in an attempt to save his own life – twice (Genesis 12, Genesis 20). My God, as my teenage daughters would say, this chick is a baddie. So, what would Sarah have to be jealous of?

At some level, we all have insecurities. If we do not deal with our insecurities, this is where culture attempts to deceive us. And when we do not deal with those insecurities in a healthy manner, we find emotions like jealousy taking root in us.

Alright, let’s go a little further. First, we have this super baddie who is married to a modern-day Denzel Washington. I mean, Abraham had it going on at all levels! Yet this power couple finds themselves without children. In this time period, women who could not have kids struggled with many different labels. Some do even still today. Barren is one of those labels. In Sarah’s time and throughout Jewish history, it was considered a severe punishment for a woman to be barren. Abraham and Sarah, two faithful servants obeying God’s call over their life, found themselves, without true justification, walking through this social, emotional, mental, and physical hardship.

The Bible states in Genesis 12, Abraham was 75 years old when God first promised him that he would become a great nation. Surely the excitement Sarah had to have felt at that time stirred up a right now faith in her! I would not doubt for a minute that she believed with everything within her that she would instantaneously become pregnant. But no, that is NOT what happened.

Ten years have passed since God’s promise to Abraham that he would become a great nation. What Sarah desired most had not become tangible in her life in her timing. So then, Sarah does what many of us find ourselves doing when God doesn’t move in our timing. She took things into her own hands! She disrupted what once was a sisterhood, a valued relationship, and shattered it.

In Genesis 16, we meet Hagar, who served as a maid to Sarah. I can only imagine when serving someone at this level that there had to be some type of relationship formed. Hagar was probably at one point a confidant, someone in which Sarah could do life with. Apparently, so much so, that Sarah sent Hagar into the bed of her husband in order to aid God in fulfilling His promise. My, my, what a dangerous space to play in, doing something against the will of God for the sake of Kingdom impact!

At first, like all sinful acts, things seem to be working out. Everything is going according to plan and Hagar conceives. But, as with all sinful acts, there are unexpected, negative consequences.

So Abram had sexual relations with Hagar, and she became pregnant. But when Hagar knew she was pregnant, she began to treat her mistress, Sarai, with contempt. Then Sarai said to Abram, “This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!” Genesis 16:4-5 NLT

Hagar goes from maidservant to Abraham’s concubine and becomes the mother of his firstborn son, Ishmael. In the words of Beyoncé, Hagar was feeling herself! Despite Sarah’s beauty and all the uncommon, supernatural favor she had on her life, she had not yet accomplished what Hagar was able to produce! Here the battle begins. Hagar begins treating Sarah as if she was beneath her and Sarah deals harshly with Hagar to remind her of her place.

Both women begin battling the fruits of jealousy and envy that were taking root in their hearts. Sarah probably entertained the devil’s lies to her, like Hagar’s conception was proof that she was permanently barren. Not to mention the mental turmoil Sarah went through having had her husband sleep with another woman. Her alternate plan worked, but at what cost? Hagar most likely struggled with her own thought process as well, desiring some level of acknowledgement as a child bearer for Abraham. Both would cope negatively, and this would manifest in their behavior toward one another.

Sin makes great promises, but never discloses the problems attached. Sin never tells us what the negative side effects are until after we have committed the sin. With emotions running high and a constant feeling of wanting what the other has going on between these two women, the battle continues to rage. Then one day, Hagar decides to make a run for it! But God. She is found by an angel of the Lord and told to return to Sarah and in obedience, she does.

After the birth of Ishmael, for about fourteen years, perhaps up to seventeen years, Hagar and Sarah endured being in relationship with one another despite their contempt for one another. This is what the enemy ultimately wants. He will do anything to steal, kill, and destroy our praise (John 10:10). I cannot imagine the toll jealousy took on these women.

But then God, whose word will not return void, allows Sarah to become pregnant. Finally, Abraham’s son, Isaac, whom God had promised to make a covenant with, was born to Sarah.

And Sarah declared, “God has brought me laughter. All who hear about this will laugh with me. Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse a baby? Yet I have given Abraham a son in his old age!” Genesis 21:6-7 NLT

One might assume this would resolve all the resentment and feelings of jealousy between the two women, right? Wrong!

One day, Sarah turned and saw Ishmael making fun of Isaac and her jealousy and anger rose again. Deep down she feared that Ishmael would share in the inheritance due Isaac. Once again, Sarah takes things into her own hands, and she demands Abraham to send Hagar and her son, Ishmael, into the desert (Genesis 21).

Due to Hagar’s obedience during her first encounter with the Lord, what appeared to be a setback became a set up for her comeback! Once sent away, Hagar is freed from those who ultimately controlled every aspect of her life. She was able to subdue her jealousy, discover her own personal identity, and continue an intimate relationship with God. God not only sustained them in the wilderness but created a great nation through Ishmael.

But let’s return to Sarah for just a minute. Why was jealousy able to grip Sarah’s heart so tightly? Because she had given up hope. She was looking at God’s promise from a very limited human perspective. And then, things just spiraled out of control.

But that’s what I love about God, He will take our mess and turn it into His message! In spite of all the sinful emotions streaming between these two women, the Lord used their lives to unfold an extraordinary plan. Let Sarah and Hagar’s story remind us that a time of waiting may be God’s precise plan for His promise! While we wait, we must control the spirit of jealousy. Do you want to experience the peace and self-control that comes from trusting God during the wait? Or would you prefer to continue wrestling with the bondage jealousy brings? The choice is yours!

Written by Stacha Ashburn

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Do Good Christian Girls Ever Get Envious?

Envy. This little four-letter word could possibly be one of the most destructive words in the English language. Are you thinking, Rhonda, that’s quite an exaggeration isn’t it? After all, we have all heard of someone being green with envy, we’ve probably even experienced it ourselves. No harm done really in most cases, right?

Humor me for a moment, please. This thought has been resonating around in my head this week as I started really contemplating the question of: Do good Christian girls ever get envious?

Let’s roll the calendar back to the beginning of time when everything was created by God. Everything belonged to him. EVERYTHING! The Bible tells us that God created Adam and Eve and placed them in the Garden of Eden. There He gave them free reign to eat from every tree in the garden except for one – the tree of knowledge of good and evil. This is the only fruit God said they could not have (Genesis 2).

And right there, at the beginning of everything, envy raised its snake-like head. Being convinced by the devil that she was missing out on something, Eve, then Adam, made a costly mistake. Genesis 3:6-7 states:

The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful, and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So, she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So, they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. NLT

It’s pretty easy for us to sit in our favorite chair and think how foolish Eve was to trade all the peace and perfection that surrounded her in Eden for a piece of fruit. But I believe we should make no mistake about this; it was NOT about the fruit! It was the fact that God had something Eve wanted, something she felt should be hers. So, while the serpent came along and tempted her, it was Eve’s own envious desires that led to that fateful bite. Sure, the fruit was beautiful and looked delicious, but most of all she wanted to be like God (Genesis 3:4-6). She would know everything, and she deserved to know everything, right?

Do you see it?  She wanted something that was not hers!

Wow, we women have a very long history of looking outside of our own lives and thinking that the thing someone else possesses, whether it is their husband, their home, their hair or even their intelligence, is what we need to complete our own story. We get twisted up so easily thinking that somehow we have not been given what should be rightly ours. We fail to see the blessings and protections God has already given us.

Maybe it’s not every woman. Maybe it’s just Eve and I, but something tells me you’ve been envious of someone or something during your lifetime as well. What is it that allows the serpent to so easily convince us to want what everyone else has?

At the beginning, I stated that envy could well be one of the most destructive words in our vocabulary. Let me correct that. It is not the word, but the emotion that is lethal. According to Proverbs 14:30:

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. NIV

Let’s look at our own day-to-day and see where envy pops up. I’ll start with a recent example of my own and assume you have a similar instance that you could point to as well.

Over the last year or so, I have gotten serious about my health. I hired a behavioral modification specialist/nutritionist/fitness instructor to help me understand why I was making poor food choices and why it seemed that my health was not improving no matter how hard I tried to make better choices. Trust me when I say, I have tried an endless number of ways to be a swimsuit model.

As a result of obedience to the instruction I have been given, I have lost forty plus pounds. Huge accomplishment, right? However, as I have inched closer to attaining my fitness goals, it has become more difficult to lose an ounce, much less a pound. Enter envy just on cue!

I had really buckled down. I ate exactly according to plan, drank the recommended water amount required, and walked the 10,000 plus steps every day that week. On Monday, it was time to step on the scale. I was up 1.5 lbs. Immediately I was envious of my friends that just the night before had wolfed down pizza and ice cream while I drank water. I wanted their metabolism, their figures, their life. I was envious.

Yes, I am a Christian and was envious! There, I said it. I allowed envy to blind me from the success I have had thus far. If I had allowed the emotion of envy to stay, I would have thrown in the towel, welcomed feelings of despair, and as my own history proves, comforted myself with brownies, candy, or some other vice, possibly destroying my journey to health and wellness.

I’m not saying that I easily dismissed the feelings of envy. I didn’t! I spent more time crying and complaining about my reflection in the mirror than I would care to admit to you. But, as I grow closer in my walk with God, I am better equipped to see the lies that envy tells. This time, instead of heading off to the pantry, I headed to my prayer closet. I poured out my disappointment and frustrations to God. I asked Him to release me from always comparing myself to others and I repented for being discontent with what He has blessed me with. I needed to give it to Him and allow Him to work in my spirit. As much as I want to vent, I also need to have an open heart to hear the Lord. God wants to be the center of my life; He wants to fill the empty spaces. God wants me to be jealous for Him alone.

1Timothy 6:6-9 speaks about those who long to be rich, putting their desires before everything else, and how true godliness with contentment is, in itself, a great wealth. In other words, contentment is the key. These verses are discussing money, but we can insert anything that we are envious of in its place. For me, it is body image. What is it for you?

I don’t know why God chose to create me to be a towering 5’2” tall with a rather solid build. But He did and that needs to be enough. He also created me to have a sense of humor, to be fiercely loyal to friends and family, and to be smart, honest, and hardworking. He gifted me with a husband that goes to crazy lengths to ensure I’m happy, sons that love me, and several beautiful grandchildren. Lastly, God has blessed me with a heart that wants to, above all else, honor Him.

Envy continues to try and rise up in me every so often, but through the relationship I now have with my Lord, it usually isn’t successful in the long term at getting me to take that bite. I pray that you too will press into God when envy comes slithering about.

So, to answer the question we started with: Do good Christian girls ever get envious? I would have to say, yes, of course we do. We are human and part of our human condition is struggling with the brokenness of this world. However, as Christians, we have a weapon that is above all things. When envy strikes, we have the Lord who helps us to stand back up. Press in sisters! Don’t trade the paradise you’ve been given for the shiny lie envy is holding.

Written by Rhonda Carlsen

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The Many Faces of Jealousy

jeal·ous·y (ˈjeləsē): 

Envious feeling of discontent and ill will because of an other’s advantages, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something that one desires.

What is jealousy? Jealousy commonly refers to thoughts or feelings of insecurity or uncertainty, fear or anxiety, and/or concern for a relative lack of possessions. Jealousy can consist of one or more emotions, such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness, or disgust. People can be dangerously consumed with jealousy. Jealousy is up close and personal.

From scripture, there are many faces of jealousy we could name. Last week, Elaine spoke of Leah and Rachel, two sisters jealous over a man who became rivals. Next week, Rhonda is discussing Eve, whose desire and overpowering longing for something that she couldn’t have ultimately caused the eviction of mankind from the Garden of Eden.

Then there’s Lot’s wife who longed so deeply for the material life that she had in Sodom, that even after being warned, DO NOT LOOK BACK (which, by the way, she totally ignored), was turned into a pillar of salt.

Look at Delilah. She accepted money to betray Samson. Overcome by her greed, she was deceitful, disloyal, and selfish causing Samson to fall into the hands of the Philistines.

And let’s not get started on Jezebel! Unscrupulous, immoral, unrestrained, and corrupt, she resorted to lies and murder to satisfy her jealousy and selfish whims.

That’s at least six faces of jealousy in Scripture I’ve noted. Each one of these women experienced some form of jealousy, and their lives concluded with serious consequences. But I have one more woman that I want to focus on. Let’s take a look at someone rarely mentioned today and what her jealous nature cost her.

Let’s examine Miriam, the sister of Moses, and what history tells us about her from both the Bible and some of the ancient Jewish writings.

Before the birth of Miriam or Moses, the Pharaoh of Egypt ordered the Hebrew midwives, who helped Israelite women give birth, to watch and see if these women had boys or girls. If a boy was born, they were to kill him. If it was a girl, they were to let her live. However, the midwives feared God more than Pharaoh, so they refused to carry out this order (Exodus 1:15-17). In response, Pharaoh’s next order, given to all his people, was:

“Throw every newborn Hebrew boy into the Nile River. But you may let the girls live.” Exodus 1:22 NLT

With this piece of the story in mind, the Bible then tells us of a couple who had at least three children – Miriam, Aaron, and Moses. Scripture tells us that Miriam was the older sister of Aaron and Moses. She is one of the few women in the Bible called a prophetess.

When Moses was three months old, his mother placed him in a basket among the reeds on the banks of the Nile. Miriam then situated herself off in the distance to see what would happen to him. Pharaoh’s daughter would then find him and take him in as her own. Quick to seize the opportunity, a young Miriam approaches the princess and offers her assistance by volunteering to go get one of the Hebrew women to nurse the baby she had found. With the princess’ acceptance of her offer, Miriam comes back to her with Moses’ own mother, who is hired on the spot (Exodus 2:3-9).

In the Torah*, Miriam also anonymously appears as the sister of Moses who stands on the riverbank. In the Midrash*, a collection of highly-respected Jewish writings, the Rabbis associate Miriam’s being by the riverbank with her earlier prophesy. According to these writings, she prophesied that her mother would birth a son who would deliver Israel. When Moses was born, her father was said to have celebrated and praised Miriam because her prophesy had come true.

Sometime later, Miriam appears again in the Bible assisting her brothers in leading the Israelite people to freedom from under Pharaoh’s rule. After many miracles and plagues, the three are found leading the people of Israel safely through the Red Sea, while Pharaoh’s army is swallowed up by the waters (Exodus 7-15).

Then Miriam the prophet, Aaron’s sister, took a tambourine and led all the women as they played their tambourines and danced. Exodus 15:20 NLT

The Torah also mentions Miriam by name in relation to this Song at the Sea.

Interestingly, the Midrash credits her as having contributed greatly to the redemption of Israel from Egypt. Though the writings give Miriam no formal position as a leader, she was considered to be a part of a family triumvirate with her brothers, and therefore, influential. Under the Midrash’s representative rendition of the cup-bearer’s dream from Genesis 40, it is stated that Miriam, Aaron, and Moses are considered to be the three branches of the vine that appear in that dream, representing an emerging and blossoming Israelite people.

According to the Aggadah*, another collection of Jewish writings, Miriam is a central source of vitality, a foremost leader, who cares for Israel’s needs in the wilderness. Miriam is again represented as a very intrinsic member of the Moses-Aaron-Miriam leadership triad.

Are you getting a sense of Miriam’s importance among the Jewish people? So, where did she go wrong?

Maybe a seed of jealousy was planted in Miriam’s heart as she watched the Lord speak to Moses and use Aaron more than her. Maybe Miriam thought she deserved to be placed higher in status than Moses and Aaron because she was the oldest sibling and had the gift of prophecy.

What we do know is her self-righteous tendencies and her jealousy over Moses became apparent when his marriage to a Cushite woman came to light. (It should be noted that the identity of this wife is not explained in scripture and that there are many theories of who she was). Moses, the Bible says, was the humblest of all people and didn’t react to his siblings’ disapproval. What we do know is the conversation was not so much about the woman as it was about Moses breaking Jewish tradition and yet, being used by God.

While they were at Hazeroth, Miriam and Aaron criticized Moses because he had married a Cushite woman. They said, “Has the Lord spoken only through Moses? Hasn’t he spoken through us, too?” But the Lord heard them. Numbers 12:1-2 NLT

When the Lord heard them, (as we all know, He HEARS EVERYTHING) He was angry and called them all to the Tabernacle! Here is the first consequence of Miriam’s jealousy. She is being questioned about her actions and reprimanded in person by the Lord!

Interestingly, it is Miriam that is punished further, which implicates her as the ringleader of this jealous fit. The second consequence of her jealousy was that the Lord struck her with leprosy on His way back to heaven. Moses, as we recall, who wasn’t offended nor reacted to his sister’s angst, continues to show tremendous love for her. In spite of her jealousy towards him, Moses pleads her case to God, asking for her healing. And God complies with a condition. She would be punished with leprosy and put outside of the camp for seven days before being allowed back among the people. Therefore, Moses and the people waited for her before they traveled again (Num. 12:1-15).

Lesson learned! God is paying attention to what His worshipers say to or about one another. To please God, we must avoid undue pride and jealousy. These toxic traits may cause us to smear the good reputation of others and/or our own in the process.

Time for a quick, honest, self-check: Are you harboring any venomous feelings of jealousy toward someone else? Is there anything that you envy having so much that you are obsessed with getting it? Are you feeling resentful, insecure, possessive, bitter, or angry towards anyone? Most importantly, is jealousy coming between you and God?

Precious Father in Heaven, we humbly come to You seeking Your love to fill us to overflowing. We seek You more each day, so that there is no room for jealousy or any other negative emotion. We trust that You will guide us and weed out anything that is not of You. We thank You for Your tender mercies, love, and grace. We thank You for Your hedge of protection from the enemy. In Your precious name, Jesus, we pray. AMEN.

Written by Melony Henderson

Please note all scripture was taken from the NLT – New Living Translation

Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

Additional Resources:

Meir, Tamar. “Miriam: Midrash and Aggadah.” Jewish Women: A Comprehensive Historical Encyclopedia. 20 March 2009. Jewish Women’s Archive. (Viewed on July 7, 2019) <https://jwa.org/encyclopedia/article/miriam-midrash-and-aggadah>.

*Jewish writings defined:

  • Jewish Torah – the law of God as revealed to Moses and recorded in the first five books of the Hebrew scriptures (the Pentateuch).
  • Midrash – a type of non-halakhic literary activity of the Rabbis for interpreting non-legal material according to special principles of interpretation (hermeneutical rules).
  • Aggadah – statements that are not scripturally dependent and that pertain to ethics, traditions, and actions of the Rabbis; the non-legal (non-halakhic) material of the Talmud.


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Jealousy – The Bond Breaker

I have seen it happen over and over again in life. The sincerest of female friendships broken up over a guy. These females may have grown up together, gone through a traumatic period together, or just simply bonded because they had so much in common. But then a male enters the picture and suddenly that dear, sweet, enduring friendship goes south – FAST. And at the root of it all is jealousy.

And we all know it doesn’t just happen in friendships either. Jealousy happens between siblings as well. Two sisters can become bitter rivals in the throws of a jealous fit. It starts with something like comparing clothes to comparing hair color to comparing height until it turns into a full-grown competition over careers, husbands, and kids.

Jealousy brings out the worst in us. We know it, but it doesn’t stop us from entertaining it nonetheless.

The Bible states in James 3:14-16:

But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, don’t cover up the truth with boasting and lying. For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. NLT

In other words – nothing good comes of it! Nothing!

When I think of jealousy, I often think of two sisters in the Bible who demonstrate how quickly this emotion can destroy what should have been a beautiful bond between siblings.

Leah and Rachel were the two daughters of Laban, a kinsman to Isaac’s wife Rebekah. Enter Jacob, Isaac and Rebekah’s youngest son. You remember Jacob, right? He cheated his oldest brother, Esau, out of his birthright for a mere bowl of soup. And then, he tricked his father into giving him the blessing that was traditionally held for the firstborn. That’s Jacob!

When we come to Leah and Rachel’s story, Jacob has been sent off to find a wife from among his mother’s people and directed specifically to go to Laban. As he neared the land owned by Laban, he is first met by some townsmen waiting by a well to water their sheep. Then down comes Rachel, Laban’s youngest daughter. Instantly, Jacob is in love. And what’s not to love about Rachel. The Bible states she was beautiful and that she was a shepherdess. Beauty and brains!

In Jacob’s pursuit to make Rachel his wife, he promises to work seven years for Laban in return for the right to marry Rachel. However, when the seven years are over, Laban tricks Jacob into marrying Leah first (you can read that part of the story in Genesis 29:20-26). Now Leah was stated to have weak eyes (Genesis 29:17) and the insinuation by most commentaries is that she was not attractive. She was definitely not Jacob’s first pick.

But what about Rachel? Oh, Jacob would be given Rachel to marry, but after he promised to work another seven years for Laban. See his determination to have Rachel? Imagine Leah’s disappointment and feelings of rejection. Think she was a little jealous? Probably. But who the Bible calls envious might surprise you!

As this story progresses, we see that even though Jacob loves Rachel the best, he doesn’t turn completely away from Leah either. In fact, Leah would be the first to give him children.

When the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb, but Rachel was barren. Genesis 29:31 ESV

Leah gave birth not to just one child, but to four! Obviously, she and Jacob had contact.

And then the Bible states this about Rachel:

When Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she envied her sister. She said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I shall die!” Genesis 30:1 ESV

Ah! The shoe is on the other foot now!

So jealous was Rachel, that in her desperation, she gives her servant to Jacob to bear him children on her behalf. From this union comes two sons. But Leah, who had not become pregnant again, is determined to reign supreme in the heir department and also gives Jacob her servant to bear him children. From this union comes two more sons.

Jealousy is winning.

Then in a strange, but almost familiar exchange some time later, we find the two sisters discussing the use of a common herb found in the land, which Leah’s son has brought to her. These mandrake plants were assumed to have fertility producing powers. With that in mind, you can understand why Rachel would want them. Still childless, she asks Leah for a portion of them, but Leah’s rejection is showing. Clearly, without the bearing of further children, Jacob’s interest in Leah has started to wane. And Rachel – her desperation continues to heighten, so she bargains with Leah (…remember the bowl of soup between two brothers?).

But she said to her, “Is it a small matter that you have taken away my husband? Would you take away my son’s mandrakes also?” Rachel said, “Then he may lie with you tonight in exchange for your son’s mandrakes.” Genesis 30:15 ESV

But Rachel’s scheme would produce more heartache for her, as Leah would go on to bare two more children for Jacob after their exchange.

Can you imagine Rachel’s reaction? Ten children later, having shared her husband with three different women, still barren, and losing hope, I think it is sincerely possible that Rachel isn’t as much jealous anymore as she is completely humbled. Why do I say this? I think Genesis 30:22-23 gives us a clue.

Then God remembered Rachel’s plight and answered her prayers by enabling her to have children. She became pregnant and gave birth to a son. “God has removed my disgrace,” she said. NLT

This passage tells me that Rachel isn’t looking to Jacob anymore to fulfill her want of a child, but that she is finally looking to God. Jealousy has turned her life into a long string of unsuccessful grabs at wholeness. Her relationship with her sister is broken, her marriage has no doubt been strained through the years, and her incredible outward beauty has not served her in the manner she may have thought it once would. Now she is able to be used by God for His purposes. Not only would Rachel bear Joseph, but also Benjamin. And with the births of her two biological sons, the lineage of the twelve tribes of Israel would finally be complete.

What is jealousy keeping you from today? Is there a friend or family bond that is suffering due to jealousy? Or is your relationship with Jesus at stake? We can all learn from Leah and Rachel’s story. Don’t allow jealousy to steal another moment of your life! It’s simply not worth it.




Founder, Transforming Love Ministries

Creator, She Steps Forward Women’s Conference

Please note all scripture was taken from the ESV and NLT.

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